Category archive: Christian Living
Releasing peace in the kids…
There is a boy at the children’s home I serve at, KB, who has grown up in the home since he was an infant. He was 1 years old when I arrived at the home in 2005. As he has grown older he has been one of the tougher boys at the home, struggling with anger…
The Thank You Journal: A Life Changer
In 2010 I really wanted to become a more intentionally loving person. I was already good at showing love to the people I liked, but I was rarely intentional in showing love to those I didn’t know that well. So I made a New Year’s Resolution that year to show intentional love to a specific…
Expectations, Relationships, and True Hope
Ever gone to a movie having really high expectations and then feeling let down at the end of it? Often times the movie wasn’t that bad, it’s just that because of your high expectations the movie had no chance to wow you, no matter how great it may have been. I’ve found it’s best to…
Letting Go of Regret
Being a melancholy, I tend to overthink things and be hard on myself. I used to have a habit of nitpicking my weaknesses and dwelling on any mistakes. I could get into bed exhausted ready to sleep only to find myself suddenly thinking about some mistake or awkward moment and becoming wide awake. The regret from those…
Fighting for Purity
FIGHT for your purity! I know too many marriages and families that have been broken as a result of porn and infidelity. Men who never thought they would ever cheat on their wives ended up doing so because their porn addiction got deeper and deeper and the lust became too strong for them. And there has been…
Discipline vs. Punishment
The contrast between discipline and punishment is just as strong as the contrast between love and fear. Discipline is showing someone what they did was wrong and that they are made to be better. Discipline comes from a heart of love; love that refuses to ignore poor behavior and instead takes the time and effort to make sure the person learns…
Seasons of Deeper Healing
This past year there have been a number of people I’ve been counseling through deeper healing. They are all Christians who have been walking with God for some time and have become respected leaders in our church. For some of them their ability to worship God was suddenly hindered and they found themselves suddenly frustrated…
A Teachable Heart
Recently during a trip to America I decided to read the book, “Boys Among Men” by Jonathan Abrams, which is about high school basketball players who jumped straight to the NBA. There were many success stories like Kevin Garnett, Kobe Bryant, and LeBron James. And there were also many disaster stories of kids who flamed out,…
Healing a Hardened Heart
Becoming jaded, distant, frustrated, or apathetic towards God (or towards someone you love) can be signs of a heart that is growing hard. In marriage counseling, a hardened heart can cause things like becoming critical, feeling contempt, stonewalling (being unresponsive), or flooding (losing control of emotions and becoming overwhelmed by them). Marriage counselors warn that…
Love Is Patient
The internet dictionary’s definition of love is: “an intense feeling or deep affection” and “to feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).” Love is a “feeling” and is connected to romance and sex. How shallow! By that definition, love is momentary, comes and goes, and is inherently selfish. When most people watch movies or…