Category archive: Marriage
Why Marry?
I was asked a few weeks ago by someone, “Why Marry?” “Why should we get married?” My response was one I don’t think she expected. I gave her two reasons. The first reason was this: “You should marry because you have love to give.” When I was a teenager there was a lovely older couple at…
How Do You Know He/She is the One?
At what point while dating a person will you know that he or she is the person you’re meant to marry? Every couple is different and I’ve known some that felt they knew within weeks of meeting each other and I’ve known others that needed much more time. Personally, I believe within a year a couple should…
Love Is Patient
The internet dictionary’s definition of love is: “an intense feeling or deep affection” and “to feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).” Love is a “feeling” and is connected to romance and sex. How shallow! By that definition, love is momentary, comes and goes, and is inherently selfish. When most people watch movies or…
Types of Attraction in Relationships
There are three key areas a person can be attracted to another: the physical, the emotional, and the spiritual. The media has chosen to emphasize the first area more and more. But it needs to be asked: Which of these areas endures over time? And which of the areas can love increase and deepen? The truth…
Pre-Marital Counseling Advice
With a number of good friends getting married this year, I thought I would share some good resources for preparing for marriage. Books 1. The best book I can recommend to couples is “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman. This book should be read by both the husband to be and…
Standards for Romance and Attraction
This past Sunday I shared at my church how I fell in love with Sky (“God of Romance”). It’s a sweet story with a lot of twists and parts to it that were clearly God working. A lot of people think that submitting your love life to God is both dangerous and boring. Most people…
Don’t Date Your Siblings
We tend to be the most comfortable around our immediate family members, particularly around our siblings. The ways we tease, the ways we handle our temper, the standards we hold each other to… these are usually all different with our siblings compared to with our friends or with strangers. It can also be difficult to…
Marriage: How a “Perfect Match” Can Be Both a Lie and a Truth
I absolutely love being married to my wife Sky. We have so much fun together. We are truly a match made in heaven. And it’s when we meditate on that truth that God brought us together and that God is good, our marriage is so strong. And while we are a match made in heaven,…
The Most Important Thing in a Relationship
The amount you can trust someone’s love will always determine how open your heart is to them and how much love you will allow in. If you can’t trust their love for you, then your heart is mostly closed to them and you can only receive a little love. But if you can fully trust…
Crucial Marriage Prep…
If you are continually neglecting your body then you should not get married. Let me repeat that… if you are continually neglecting your body then you should not get married. Ephesians 5:28-30 – In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no…