Category archive: Dating
Why Marry?
I was asked a few weeks ago by someone, “Why Marry?” “Why should we get married?” My response was one I don’t think she expected. I gave her two reasons. The first reason was this: “You should marry because you have love to give.” When I was a teenager there was a lovely older couple at…
How Do You Know He/She is the One?
At what point while dating a person will you know that he or she is the person you’re meant to marry? Every couple is different and I’ve known some that felt they knew within weeks of meeting each other and I’ve known others that needed much more time. Personally, I believe within a year a couple should…
Physical Affection While Dating
There are different levels of physical affection for a dating couple and a progression in passion depending on the affection… 1. Holding hands… feels amazing in the beginning, but not something people would term as “passionate.” It can definitely cause a bond between two people to grow quicker. 2. Cuddling together… this can become passionate depending on…
Types of Attraction in Relationships
There are three key areas a person can be attracted to another: the physical, the emotional, and the spiritual. The media has chosen to emphasize the first area more and more. But it needs to be asked: Which of these areas endures over time? And which of the areas can love increase and deepen? The truth…
Let’s Just Be Friends
Here is some advice for those who enjoy having friends of the opposite gender (both for girls with guy friends and guys with girl friends)… 1. Understand that no friend of the opposite sex can be your best friend unless that person is your spouse. If you are a girl and your best friend is a…
Pre-Marital Counseling Advice
With a number of good friends getting married this year, I thought I would share some good resources for preparing for marriage. Books 1. The best book I can recommend to couples is “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman. This book should be read by both the husband to be and…
Standards for Romance and Attraction
This past Sunday I shared at my church how I fell in love with Sky (“God of Romance”). It’s a sweet story with a lot of twists and parts to it that were clearly God working. A lot of people think that submitting your love life to God is both dangerous and boring. Most people…
Dating – Figuring Out Who You Match Up With
Here is some very simple advice for those who don’t know what they want in a spouse – Consider the different people of the opposite sex that you have worked with, served with, studied with, gone on study abroad/mission trips with, and consider which people you genuinely enjoyed serving/working with. What was it about those specific…
First Date Advice
Dating on TV and in movies is pretty unhealthy/unrealistic: “We just met, after a couple hours with you I am now head over heels for you, this is so exciting, let’s sleep together tonight.” Such dating is heavily based on physical attraction and lust (allowing free rein of desires/emotions). And so sadly a lot of my generation has…
Don’t Date Your Siblings
We tend to be the most comfortable around our immediate family members, particularly around our siblings. The ways we tease, the ways we handle our temper, the standards we hold each other to… these are usually all different with our siblings compared to with our friends or with strangers. It can also be difficult to…